The truth is that Finding a good boyfriend these days isn't a piece of Cake. Its really hard as guys of nowadays come almost in the same package. I think because of this trend of guys that most girls just settle for anything. Well for me Settling is not even an option. I have got all the patience in the world and a good thing is worth waiting for.
And has it ever happened to you that when you now find the one you think you like, you find out his already taken.*Hiss*
So I begin to wonder what are the things that separate an average boyfriend from a great one. The answer as to what separates them is simply their Qualities. You know its qualities that make you place some guys under BOYFRIEND MATERIAL, HUSBAND MATERIAL, BED MATE MATERIAL, HANG OUT & FLEXING MATERIAL, etc.
So if you want a man that you can be proud to show off to your friends and take home to MAMA then these Tips will help you to separate the CHERRIES from the DUCHBAGS.
#1: He communicates always with you
A great boyfriend loves talking to his girlfriend. He has interesting things to talk about even when there’s nothing new. And most importantly, he wants to understand you and he wants you to understand him. He wants to always hear your voice even if its just for 1min
#2: He’s interested in your life and eager to be a part of it.
Does your boyfriend ask you about your life every day? A good boyfriend is always interested to hear about his girlfriend’s life and the things she does every day. It just means he misses you so much, and hearing about your day makes him feel like he hasn’t missed a moment of your life!
#3: He’s very romantic and sensual.
A guy may woo a girl until she accepts to date him. But some guys take it easy as soon as they get the girl. Don’t date a guy who takes a back seat and expects you to do all the work as soon as he wins your heart. He won’t change for you because he’s too self centered and selfish. He has to be romantic, breakfast in bed, walk in the park, gifts and surprises, candle light dinners etc.
#4: He tries to make you a better person.
When two people love each other, they can’t help but try to bring out the best sides in each other. If your boyfriend loves you, he’d constantly try to motivate you and help you achieve your full potential instead of telling you that you’re incompetent or can’t do something.
#5: He respects you and doesn't disrespect you.
He doesn’t ogle at other girls in front of you. He never speaks about you in bad light to his friends. And most importantly, he knows that you’re better than him in many ways and admires you for that.
#6: He makes you feel secure and loved.
He goes out of his way to make you feel loved, by indulging in romantic gestures and words. He loves you and never ceases to show his love for you in little ways.
#7: He compromises for you.
He’d be willing to do something with you even if he hates it, if only to make you happy, especially if it means a lot to you. He puts you first and will do anything for you. Your happiness comes first to him.
#8:He has goals in life for himself and works hard for a better future.
A great boyfriend is one who has goals in life and works towards achieving them. He doesn’t bitch and moan about how unfair life is. Instead, he grabs life by the horns and tries to make something great out of it.
#9: He wants you to be independent.
A good boyfriend may want to spend all his time with you, but at the same time, he’d still give you the space to pursue your own dreams. As much as he loves you and misses you, he’d still want you to have a life of your own. His not jealous about your success or sees it as a threat. His not competing with you but instead pushes you to forge ahead more.
#10: He’s not stubborn.
A guy may be stubborn when it comes to his ambition and his determination, but he should never be stubborn when it comes to making decisions or making life plans with his girlfriend. Compromises and sacrifices are a part of making a relationship work in the long run. He lets you have your say and plans together with you.
#11: He listens to you.
A good boyfriend doesn’t think he’s a know it all. He’s always willing to hear you out and listen to your point of view completely before taking a decision, especially if the decision involves the both of you.
#12: He helps you trust him.
Insecurities and doubts always have a way of cropping up in a relationship when there are secrets or lies. A great boyfriend doesn’t give you any opportunity to doubt him, and communicates with you frankly and avoids lying or keeping secrets that may affect the relationship.
#13: He doesn’t try to control you.
A guy may seem like a great boyfriend initially. But as the months pass by, he may start to subtly and deviously control you one step at a time. If you notice even the slightest signs of controlling behaviour in him, speak with him about it so he can change before it’s too late or gets out of hand.
#14: You’re important to him.
If your boyfriend really does love you and sees a future with you, he’d place you above everything else in his life. You’re the most important thing in his life, and everything else just takes second place.
#15: He calls you always.
A great boyfriend stays in touch all the time, and keeps you updated about his life. He doesn’t see the need to be secretive, nor does he avoid your calls when he goes out with his friends at night. For you, he’s an open book and never ignores you or shuts you out of his life.
#16: He tries to look good for you and is eager to make an effort for you.
He grooms himself when he comes to meet you because he wants to look good in your arms. He even works out and stays fit because he respects you and wants to look his best for you.
#17: He’s a man of principles.
He doesn’t backtrack on his words. He is a man of his words. He makes promises and keeps them. He’s in control of his life, and has firm principles in life.
#18: He’s exciting and fun.
He’s active and has a fun life of his own. A great boyfriend is almost always a great guy too. He has an active social life, and gets along with people easily. He’s likable and has a warm aura about him that draws people to him.
#19: He sees you.
A great boyfriend is one who sees you, and knows you well. Does he notice your new haircut or a new dress when you wear one? If a guy loves you and finds you fascinating, he’d be observant and would easily recognize something new in you.
#20: He doesn’t force you.
He doesn’t pressurize you into doing something you don’t want to do. He may advice you and may try to convince you about why he believes something is right, but he won’t try to manipulate you or threaten you into doing something he wants you to do.
#21: Your friends and family.
A good boyfriend would always try to impress your friends and your family, even if he can’t get along with a few of them, because he wants them to believe he’s a great guy worthy enough of dating a sweet girl like you.
#22: He’s great in bed.
A perfect boyfriend initiates and maintains an active sex life. He’s innovative and tries to keep sex fun because he realizes that sex is just as important as love in a happy romance.
#23: He makes time for you.
No matter how busy he is or how occupied he is, he always makes time for you. He could sacrifice his sleep or stay up longer, but he’d want to be with you at least for a few minutes or hours. And that’s not because you’re nagging him, but because he misses you and your touch.
Courtesy: Lp
Relationships are built on communication and understanding.
If you’re dating a guy and even if he seems perfect to begin with, time can reveal cracks and flaws, differences and resentments, between the both of you.
There’s the potential of a great boyfriend in every guy, if only he chooses to reflect within and turn himself into the man of your dreams.
So Ladies lets SHINE our eyes and drill these guys to know who is FAKING IT or KEEPING IT REAL..
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