Most guys often spend a lot of their time on girls who don't even like them or care about them as they do for the girls. I know that most times it happens subconsciously that a guy will fall in love with a girl that isn't right for him but right for someone else.
Sometimes Its very hard for these guys to know and sometimes they are in denial. If your one of these guys who have mixed emotions and constantly trying to figure out where you stand in her life, then this article will help you decide so you can escape before your heart is broken and your dumped.Ask yourself these questions first to know if you belong in this category. Are you having mixed feelings for this girl whom you really love? is she showing a lot of interest in you and yet she still doesn't call you her boyfriend? Are you trying so hard to please her and yet she doesn't appreciate? Does she giggle each time you call yourself her boyfriend?
Its important to know that being in love is a beautiful thing and should make you feel very happy. I have put together a number of TIPS that will help you spot if you have being a WASTE BIN who is about to become a DUMPED TRASH.
#1: She makes excuses about going out with you in Public
Especially during the day time, Her excuse is either that she's tired and if she agrees, there are certain places she cant go to.When she's outside she doesn't act all touchy and playful. She keeps it fast and almost in a rush to either get into the car or a taxi. Scary** I feel sorry for this dude.
#2: She makes excuses not to see you whenever you suggest meeting up
Its either she tells you she's at home with her family, or she travelled, or something came up. Its one story after the other and she only sees you when its ok for her. Guys, this babe is seriously up to something and the Tell Tell Signs are everywhere... What are you thinking with?? your Penis
#3: Its a secret relationship between you two
Her friends just know you both are close or planning to date but has no clue of you guys dating. She doesn't tell them that and its just the both of you that know as she keeps it a secret and introduces you to her friends as a friend. Seriously you are simply living in LA LA LAND where your dating u and yourself.
#4: She constantly tells you she loves you.
You almost believe you’re in a relationship with her already. She may tell you that she loves you and needs you, and yet, she doesn’t behave like your girlfriend. She blows hot and cold, and she just expects you to cater to her whims and fancies as and when she needs your attention. She loves you and yet introduces you as a friend. One question-Who amongst you is deceiving each other???
#5: She only needs you when she’s lonely.
She comes to you only when she’s lonely. She doesn’t remember you or care about you when she’s having fun. But when she’s bored or alone, she behaves like she misses you so much and can’t stop thinking about you. And you need to make time for her. Hmmm!!! this girl needs to be left to be roasted not just lonely.
#6: She bombards you with Flirty phone conversations.
There’s more intimate over the phone than in person. She may not always throw herself at you when both of you meet up in person. But she’s always warm and flirty over the phone, sending you love messages and all that. She may even get naughty over the phone or have phone sex with you. Its plain she's just playing with your head, at least you have a brain left so Use it.
#7: She blows hot today and cold tomorrow.
She’s friendly and close for several days or weeks, and all of a sudden, she ignores you and won’t have time for you again. You see this happening pretty frequently, where she ignores you when she’s getting a lot of attention from other guys and then reappears all of a sudden. One word- Wake up!!
#8: She tells you that she hasn’t been in too many relationships.
She claims to have dated very few guys. She probably tells you she’s been in very few relationships too. But that’s probably because she has another guy in her life. she leads on most guys she dates and doesn’t like calling them her ex boyfriends. If you know she’s dated a particular guy before and she claims she never dated that guy, but they were just friends, she’s definitely leading you on too! and as far as she's concerned she hasn't ever dated you...Ur just a friend as usual.lol
#9: She hooks up.
She may date another guy and still give you her attention, which makes you feel special, and confused at the same time. Eventually, you don’t care whether she’s another guy’s girlfriend, you just want her attention and her love. Are you disabled? or have some sort of abnormality?? wondering!!
#10: And then she wants to be closer.
When you give her the space because she’s being distant, she immediately changes her behavior and starts craving for your attention to win you back again. She tries to keep in touch with you and calls you often just to win your attention back. User!!!
#11:She makes herself appear helpless.
She convinces you that you’re very important to her and that she needs you. She makes herself appear weak and helpless without your advice and emotional support. She tells you she needs you, and that she’s very close to you, and she doesn’t know what she’d do without you in her life. Story!!!
#12: She doesn’t want to acknowledge that you like her.
She’s very evasive when it comes to talking about your feelings. Every time you tell her that you love her or want to date her exclusively, she’d just smile or change the subject. Or in the worst case, she may tell you she can’t think of you as anything more than a friend. But she’d still lean in, wrap her arms around you and kiss you to make you feel better! This one might cost u an ARM or a LEG
#13: She may fall for another guy.
When a girl is leading you on, she knows you’d behave like a lost puppy and trail her even if she likes another guy. This girl who’s leading you on may tell you about all the guys who are giving her attention, and she may even tell you about a guy she’s falling for. It’s completely acceptable for her to like another guy, but when you do the same or talk about another girl, she pretends like she’s not interested in hearing what you have to say. I've heard worse, give me a break.
But almost always, the girl who’s leading you on probably likes you, but she needs more time to make up her mind about whether she really wants to date you. She may just be confused right now.
few girls could lead a guy on because they want some drama in their own lives, or because they like getting a guy’s attention. It makes them feel better about themselves.
Or in some circumstances, the girl who’s giving you mixed signals and leading you on could really like you, but she may be a people pleaser or an attention whore who’s too worried what her friends may think of you *because she assumes you’re not good enough to show off to her friends.
Some people are just too worried about the world and what people think, and their happiness depends more on what others say and think than what really matters to them or what they need.
A girl who’s leading you on may be using you!
If you’re in a complicated relationship with a girl who’s just leading you on, you need to realize that her subtle manipulation tactics are just screwing your mind. She’s playing you and you’re falling for all her tricks because your love for her, clouds your judgment and is blinding u almost foolishly.
Even if do you confront her, or give her an ultimatum to date you or stop talking to you, she may break down or tell you that she really likes you, but she just needs more time to sort the confusions in her mind.
So guys I can only bring you the tips but its up to you to do the rest. Be man enough to put an end to this madness if your in this position and I hope above all you find happiness and self worth.
Courtesy: Lp
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