How to be really Happy in Your Relationship

Bringing happiness into a relationship is one of the simplest things couples can do.
But yet, several couples have a hard time keeping love and happiness alive, even if they did experience a lot of it in the first few months or years of the relationship.
Often most people aren't happy in their relationships, while others find themselves in a relationship just because they want to pls the other person or they care about what people will say when they walk away.
Well whatever your reasons are for getting into the relationship in the first step its totally up to you. While I cant decide what you should do if your in that situation, I can at least help by sharing Seven (7) Tips on how to be Happy in your relationship. I will go all out searching and bringing you the best tips to help build your relationship.

Tip 1:  Communicate and understand each other
Remember those first few weeks when both of you were dating each other? Remember how you were both crazily in love and you wanted each other so bad that you most times did silly things and went out of your way to please each other.
Can you remember all those incessant rounds of questions both of you asked each other to find out about your likes and dislikes?

Don’t stop asking those questions.
You may be in love with each other for several years, but as individuals, both of you are constantly changing all the time and so does your likes and dislikes change too.
Learn to communicate and ask each other all those first date questions now and then, and try to have an active interest in each other’s lives and pursuits. It’ll help both of you understand each other better and bring both of you closer.
Always remember this. Misunderstandings in love don’t happen when you mishear each other, it happens most when you stop communicating with each other. A good and honest communication goes a long way in the pursuit of happiness.

Tip 2: End every argument as soon as possible  and don't let it get out of hand
If you want to use these steps to change your life, both of you have to be aware of what it takes to be happy in a relationship and both of you have to work towards it. It just can’t be a one sided effort or 30:70 it has to be 50:50.
Confusions and petty arguments are at times inevitable even in the most happiest of relationships. And it’s alright to have a strong opinion once in a while. But no matter what the little disagreement is about or however angry or upset either of you are, make up as soon as you can. Don't leave it till the next day. Make sure you always settle before you go to bed.
And that means no wasting time on huffing, puffing or whining. You may be really angry, but learn to hold your partner’s hand and say “hey, I’m sorry we had a fight. Can we forget about it/talk about it some other time?”
What would work even better is a warm hug after a disagreement. Always understand that no matter what the differences are, both of you are in love each other. So whatever the issue, end it soon or talk about it when the tension isn’t so thick.

Tip 3: Be willing to apologize
At times, you may just not want to apologize. Do not let pride come first. Humility is the key here and it does pay off Trust me...GUYS TAKE NOTE...You may be convinced that it’s not your fault and you don’t see any reason in humiliating yourself by offering an apology.
But that’s where you’re wrong.
What are you trying to prove after a fight? That you’re right and your partner is wrong? Why? Why do you have to show off that you’re right? Does it even matter who’s wrong or right when your lover is sad and upset?
In a relationship, there are no winners or losers. There are just happy couples or unhappy ones. If you want to know how to be happy in a relationship, learn to swallow your pride and apologize even if it’s not your fault. It’s for the sake of your relationship. Egos destroy relationships and both partners have to learn to apologize to each other even if it’s not their own fault.
Get rid of the ego and you’ll see how successful and happy your relationship can be.

Tip 4: Learn to forgive
To err is human… and you know the rest of that quote. All of us make mistakes. In a happy relationship, both partners must learn to forgive each other. Practice what your second line of prayers "Lord forgive me all my sins". Don't be so hardened it doesn't pay.
It may be a petty mistake or even a huge one, but if you are willing to give your relationship a chance, learn to forgive, forget and move on. Unless, of course, your partner repeats the same act again, which would only mean your partner doesn’t love you or respect you enough to care about your feelings.
Unless it’s adultery or something just as heart breaking, voice your opinion and forgive your partner. Holding grudges has never helped any relationship, and it never will.
 
Tip 5: Respect each other as individuals
Your partner and you may truly love each other, but that doesn’t complete the recipe for a happy relationship. Do you respect your partner and trust them in your time of need?
Respecting each other is important for the success and happiness in any relationship. You may think your girlfriend is a hottie or you may know that your man’s a brawny hunk. But unless you respect them for their intellectuality and their personality, they’re nothing but your arm candy.
When you respect your lover, it shows that you trust them and can look to them for advice and help when it comes to making important decisions in the relationship. And the mutual respect that both of you share will bring more confidence into each other and happiness into your relationship. Even in public and at home, always talk to them in a respectful manner and do not ever put them down for any reason. You know the saying "Respect is reciprocal". If you treat her like a Lady she will treat you like her King.

Tip 6: Look good in each other’s arms
The secret to knowing how to be happy in a relationship isn’t just about each other’s intellectual strength and the ability to compromise for the good of the relationship. Sometimes, happiness and fun in love comes from the desire to want each other.
Does your partner sexually excite you? Do you still excite your partner? Or have either of you put on a lot of weight or started dressing down and forgotten to clean yourselves up because it just doesn’t matter anymore? Have they had kids and your no longer their priority? or stopped being sexy because they feel they are now married? Work out, dress well and look good. Win the admiration of your lover and the people around you and your partner will be attracted to you and will desire you more, even if you’ve been together for several years.

Tip 7: Have an exciting sex life
Sex is pretty important in a happy relationship. In almost all relationships, it always starts off with sex every night and starts dwindling down to a few times a week after a few years and eventually, having sex once in a few weeks becomes a luxury.
But does that seem right?
If you met a crush you sexually desire or end up having an affair with someone else, wouldn’t you be banging the bed every night like a horse on heat? You do know that the sexual desire and the fire is within you, so do something about it!
You may be bored of seeing the same body parts all the time for years on end. But there are always ways to bring the excitement back into bed. Having an exciting and satisfying sex life is pretty important in understanding how to be happy in a relationship. Discuss about your sexual interests with each other and learn to innovate as both of you grow together. And if you do have a few sexually deviant ideas, talk about it.

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As you apply these tips, I hope you can now begin to feel happy in your relationship. Feel free to share more tips and let me know how you get on. If you have any questions to ask me do contact me. lets make our relationship a loving and happy one whether your married, or just dating. For the single ones, take note and get ready for when the Right one comes along.