The single mum issue is a topic most people avoid talking about. Most mums are left wondering what the next step is for them when they become single mums. Some of them become devastated, depressed and afraid of the future.
Many of them start to loose their self worth, become desperate and settling for anything because of fear of any man finding them worthy.
This shouldn't be the case and I marvel when I see this. Well I will share some TIPS of things every single mum should do when they find themselves in that situation
1. Get your body back
This is the Number 1 key. Go back to the gym or find time to work out at home and get your body back. Don't just sit at home eating and putting on weight. Snap back into your post baby body quickly whichever way you decide to do it because remember its double the competition
2. Dress Sexy and Look after yourself
Appearance matters a lot. Men are drawn mostly by what they see. Make looking good a lifestyle. You need to make yourself appealing. Go fix your nails, do your hair, smell nice and dress smartly. Being a mum shouldn't make you feel you don't need to spoil and pamper yourself
3. Be Confident
I get sick to my stomach when I see single mums who have lost confidence in themselves because of what society thinks of them. Remember the energy you put out is what you get back. Some single mums stay judging themselves in a world where people you think care, actually don't. Go about life with your head high, be a moving train and when you meet a new guy let him see your confidence shine through and he will respect you more
4. Stop Living in Self pity
Being a mum should be a wonderful thing so please enjoy every moment about it. Love yourself and your child. You haven't done anything wrong and see it that you had the privilege to bring another life into this world. You're not a murderer coz u could have chosen to terminate the pregnancy like those who did abortion. Be proud of yourself and find every reason to love your situation because no matter what you do, you can't turn the hands of time. Be happy and savour this lifetime experience with your child
5. Don't ever Hide your Child
Most single mums are so ashamed that they hide their child from a new guy. Sorry but every mum should put their kids first. No man is worth you hiding your kids for. You can't love me if you can't accept my child. Let the man know from the onset that you have a child and that way you save yourself the hide and seek. The only person that gets to suffer from you denying your child or hiding them is your kid. Tell the man and when you're telling him, be confident and proud. Don't ever refer to your child as a mistake coz that's how others will address them
6. Be Hardworking and Independent
You need to accept your reality now and start working hard. Be successful, start up a business or get a job. Don't let any man see you and your child as a liability. Let a man see you as an asset rather than a liability. Learn a trade because its now twice the responsibility
7. Don't settle or be Desperate
Most single mums are easy target for guys. They see them as the weak link and prey on them. You need to avoid being seen as desperate. Have STANDARDS and avoid mingling with low lives just because you feel you can't find a nice man. Don't be in a hurry to date again. There is nothing wrong with being single for awhile and spend time raising your child. Put all that energy into working on yourself and looking after you child. Pray and the right man will find you and cherish you
8. Don't make yourself a Sugar mummy because your scared of being alone. I've heard how some Single mums let a man move into their homes and they become sugar mummies to them. What happened to your self esteem. This is the wrongest thing to ever do. A man should look after a woman and not the other way round, and the fact that you're a single mum doesn't make you an exception. Stay away from any guy that feels your his ATM machine
9. Be Sociable
Make time to go out whenever you can manage it and network. Have a mum-social life balance. Don't just stay home all the time thinking a man will fall from your ceiling. You're still single and ready to mingle so put yourself out there and enjoy life. Get a babysitter and hang out with your friends.
10. Look after you Child
Your child should be your number one priority. Love and care for them. Don't go hating on your child or see them as the reason for your misfortune. The child didn't ask to be brought into this world so love them with your heart and bring them up the best way you can. When a man sees that you're looking after your child well, he will be more drawn to you and respect you more
Being a Single mum shouldn't be a death sentence. You have accomplished one of your biggest achievements in life so start seeing it that way. Be confident in yourself and embrace your new role as a mum. Its gets easier every single day so enjoy your kids as being a mum is the most rewarding role any mother can play.
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