Does your man always stare at other women even when you’re around? It can be really annoying at times, and you may feel helpless too. Men have always had a hard time keeping their eyes focused even when they are around their woman. They always have to stare at other women across the street. It’s almost like you’re helpless and you can’t do anything about it. Or can you?
All women have been there… and done that. By that we mean, we’ve all caught our men staring at other women and their assets, and we’ve all given them the cold shoulder until they came back crawling and sweet talking us into forgiving them. But what is it with men and their wandering eyes? They are supposedly in a happy relationship and they do love you, but there’s something about that girl’s legs or another girl’s breasts that gets his neck craning a complete circle to get a better view. It can be really annoying each time you tell him off, but you know nothing’s ever going to stop him.
Men stare as if they’re hypnotized and at most times, they need a thwack on the head to realize you exist. It’s alright to see your male friends stare at other women, but when your own man sizes up women in front of you, it’s obviously going to hurt you and your ego. Your male friends would say that they stare at women because they are so damn good looking, and that they envy God for having such outstanding creativity! But your boyfriend usually says “oh… I thought I knew that girl, serious… she reminded me of an old school friend.” Or maybe not… Most men do it, but they also add that they try their best not to, but it’s just their involuntary reflexes.
Men stare, better put, ogle. Period. But what they don’t understand is that we look at these guys as annoying men who just can’t seem to work the courage up to approach women. And besides, we’re not actually going to reciprocate the ogles of a coward, are we? But men don’t seem to care. And it’s probably because they know they’ll never have the courage to walk up and approach a girl, and ask her out. So they might as well size her up and register her assets as much as their brain can allow them to. It may be a furtive glance or a drooling stare, but researchers have revealed that an average man spends six months of his life leeching at women! And his eyes make sure they get an average of eight sneaky stares each day, sometimes for up to two minutes at a stretch.
So now you know that trying to get rid of his habit is not going to be easy, actually, it’s not going to be possible. But the most important question is how do you handle it? And how do you change all that forever? But there is a way to stop him from staring at other woman. Then it’s time to open your bag of sneaky tactics. Find out how.
Are you serious about him?
Well, this is your call now, really. Are you serious with this bloke of yours? If it’s just a ‘little-crush-I-have-on-him’ kind of thing, then don’t bother. Enjoy the moment, have fun with him. Go out for movies and those romantic dinners. Let him stare at others, and don’t stop yourself from staring at other men either.
But on the other hand, if you know that this man is the one for you, and you can’t think of anyone else replacing him, then it’s pretty dense. You need to do something about it. You will have to sit down and tell him about how you feel. Make it clear to him that you don’t appreciate his stares and glances at other women, not at least when you’re around.
Is he really leeching?
There’s a thin line between leeching and staring. And it’s just as thin as the line between disapproval and jealousy. Ask yourself if your man is really leeching or giving the girl with the mini skirt an appreciative glance. To make it simpler for you, leeching is obvious and shameless, something like stopping in the middle of the street and turning around to get a better view. And staring is just that, staring… maybe with a bit of appreciation.
Let’s admit it. We know that men can’t take their eyes off a pretty face, or a hot body. Any attractive girl would naturally turn heads. It can be a pain in your backside when your man ogles at other women, but surprisingly it can have a mesmerizing effect on your man’s body parts too. If your boyfriend indulges in ogling every now and then, even after repeatedly reminding him, then it’s up to you to either accept it or move on.
However, if you’re out with a girlfriend of yours and you catch him leeching at her or sizing her up, then you know he belongs in the trash bin at the back of the restaurant!
Make it clear to him
Now this calls for some composure and restraint. You may want to choke him or gouge his eyes out, but hold that thought. Do tell him that you don’t like it, in a calm controlled way, and this is best not told right after an ogling incident. We’re already stereotyped as nagging mammies and we don’t need to be one. So tell him in a reasonable tone not to be so obvious because you don’t like it.
You’re not being silly or childish, he is! And don’t start a screaming match or an ‘I’m-not-talking-to-you’ act. It’s not going to help you anyways. And don’t carry any emotional baggage along with that line like “I know that girl looks better than me, that’s why you’re staring at her!” Just stay in control and get the point across in a clear manner.
Tell him how bad you feel
Tell him that his constant drooling appreciation of the opposite gender in front of you bothers you. Why? Explain that it makes you feel uncomfortable. Ask him how he would react if you did the same and state that it makes you look like a fool in front of others. If he cares for you, he will understand and try to control his ogling eyes at least by some extent.
Don’t accept any corny excuses
If your man comes up with the most likely response, that he has to check out other women to re-establish that you’re the best for him, don’t accept it. If he really loves you, he doesn’t need to constantly reaffirm it, and definitely not by leeching at other women. Laugh it off and demand a smarter explanation or mention that his behavior is unacceptable. And if his excuse is that he can’t help it, point out that he’s a grown-up who should be in control of his behavior. And if he’s that much of a slave to his ogling habits, you might want to consider whether you want to be with such a man because chances are he will probably never change.
The pot calling the kettle black
If, after you’ve talked to him about it, he continues to size up other women in front of you, it’s probably time to give him a taste of his own medicine. Next time you’re out together and he starts giving his eyes some exercise, crack your knuckles and prepare yourself for a staring game, female style. Stare at other men, smile more often at others, do that thing with your hair as you stare at another man, giggle at that cutie in the next table and look away, and just about do anything that would attract other men’s attention.
When he asks you about it, which he definitely would if he even remotely cares about you, let your eyes drift away to the next table again, before smiling at him lovingly as if he’s just come back into focus. A vague, “Sorry hun, did you say something?”, should get him making himself look like an idiot, at which stage you can laugh it off and say you’re only joking, or that it doesn’t mean anything, or that he’s the one you really want.
He may get what you’re trying to prove here, unless he’s a dense troll. But in either case, a few dates of the staring game should help him learn a good lesson about stares and the power women wield when it comes to the staring game!
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And while you’re indulging in the staring game, make sure you have your share of fun. After all, if you man doesn’t get the hint, you’d at least have a new arm candy who’s staring back at you right now! And trust, this will stop your man from staring at other women when you’re around!
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